Familiarity Breeds
There's one fact swirling along the periphery of my brain today. The close proximity and familiarity by repetition of co-workers resulting in care for people I don't care for.
There's only so many people that one can emotionally connect and intentionally build relationships with, and the cold fact is that time has a lot to do with friendship, because time is valuable. Spend time leveling in an rpg (thank goodness those days are over) and try not caring about losing days of progress. And so on and so forth with additional analogies.
Jesus does say to love and pray for enemies, but also had only twelve "close" followers, or friends. My old lost and dead flesh dislikes people, but Christ within loves. So it happens that I end up caring for people I don't care for. At the same time, we are the salt of the world. Christianity isn't about holing up in our home with best buds all day and staying away from all the bad people. What a bad influence.
This fact is that time spent with anything knits the spender to that thing in proportion to the time spent. All the book reading, therapy, voodoo, yoga, shooting up, raving, praying, wailing, zoning, tantrums and all else just tug at the pendulum a bit. The pendulum of quantity and quality time. These two reverse each other, but quantity will overbearingly crush quality in most cases, simply because there's so much of it.
The evil swirling fact is not that I'm building friendships with people I wouldn't normally choose to build with, but that it's a decision I seemingly have no choice over. I think, that people are ok with this mostly due the camaraderie that acts as a depressant in the loss of other relationships. Camaraderie can go a long way before leaving you with nothing.
And I'm leaving this here, nearly nothing, just a small and heartfelt plea to consciously fight against losing the quality friendships that build you up, to the overbearing quantity of friends that drag you down. Be in the world, not of it.
There's only so many people that one can emotionally connect and intentionally build relationships with, and the cold fact is that time has a lot to do with friendship, because time is valuable. Spend time leveling in an rpg (thank goodness those days are over) and try not caring about losing days of progress. And so on and so forth with additional analogies.
Jesus does say to love and pray for enemies, but also had only twelve "close" followers, or friends. My old lost and dead flesh dislikes people, but Christ within loves. So it happens that I end up caring for people I don't care for. At the same time, we are the salt of the world. Christianity isn't about holing up in our home with best buds all day and staying away from all the bad people. What a bad influence.
This fact is that time spent with anything knits the spender to that thing in proportion to the time spent. All the book reading, therapy, voodoo, yoga, shooting up, raving, praying, wailing, zoning, tantrums and all else just tug at the pendulum a bit. The pendulum of quantity and quality time. These two reverse each other, but quantity will overbearingly crush quality in most cases, simply because there's so much of it.
The evil swirling fact is not that I'm building friendships with people I wouldn't normally choose to build with, but that it's a decision I seemingly have no choice over. I think, that people are ok with this mostly due the camaraderie that acts as a depressant in the loss of other relationships. Camaraderie can go a long way before leaving you with nothing.
And I'm leaving this here, nearly nothing, just a small and heartfelt plea to consciously fight against losing the quality friendships that build you up, to the overbearing quantity of friends that drag you down. Be in the world, not of it.
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